For every child, their father is the super hero. He is the one who saves them from monsters, buys them gifts and is the provider for the family. Absence of a father due to death or negligence or one having one with an abusive streak or uncaring attitude can cause father wounds in an individual’s psyche.
Father wounds can cause deep emotional scars making one feel unworthy of love. It creates low self- esteem, anxiety, depression and rigidity. Having a violent father could also push a person to become violent as well due to suppressed rage. The sufferer also develops trust issues which makes having a healthy relationship difficult. If one becomes a parent without healing these wounds, he runs the risk of repeating these patterns and becoming an absent, uncaring or violent parent as well, causing further hurt and resentment.
Healing oneself from father wounds starts with forgiveness. As a child, we want our parents to be perfect, we want our mother to be a nurturer and our father to be a protector. However, we need to be cognizant of our parents also being human who can make mistakes. While there is no formula to be a great father, a loving nature and caring attitude is definitely needed.
However, if your father lacked these attributes, forgive him. He may have his reasons, faults and challenges. He may not have wanted to be distant. It was also possible that carried his own father wound and unknowingly passed it on to you.
The way to break this chain would be for you to forgive and ensure that you do not further pass it on to your children. Some memories that are hurtful can continue to linger in mind still causing pain and anger. Try and eliminate them and free yourself from the burden.
Connecting with the higher power can also help you heal this emotional scar. Believe in the power of the universe and a mighty power that rules everything. Allow him to be the father you wanted and let him heal the scars that stop you from your spiritual growth. Believe that you are accepted and do not let the hurts of the past run your life. Healing within the Akashic Records lends was a metaphysical way for dealing with Father Wounds
Father wound can also be completely healed by a trained counsellor or a hypnotherapist. They can help you in dealing with this deep-rooted pain and help you completely remove it from your soul. So get in touch with one, to help yourself heal and grow.