Inside each of us, is a small child – a child who may be carrying some past hurts. These wounds may have come into our psyche at very early childhood – even in utero. These past hurts/wounds may be due to neglect in upbringing or abuse – physical or mental. As a child we are vulnerable and easily hurt. The emotions we feel are deep and can at times scar our very souls. It could be something as trivial as our favorite toy which we viewed as our safety net being thrown to something as traumatic as our parents breaking up, could have wounded us. As we grow up, these scars become treasured wounds and can come up in the form of phobia, relationship issues, anxiety attacks , obsessive compulsive disorder,lack of confidence and at times even addiction. The impact is mental, physical, emotional and at times sexual on the adult psyche of the person
In order to eliminate these problems from their root, it is necessary to introspect and find out the event which had led you on this path. Childhood traumas are varied and so are their impacts. A child of a broken home may end up having relationship and trust issues later in life. Child of an addicted parent many get addicted himself as he subconsciously feels it’s a pattern that needs to be followed. An innocent child who has been molested or sexually attacked will have fear of physical intimacy and may never be able to enjoy love making. However, a person may not realize that the cause of their current woes lies in their past sufferings.
In order to stop suffering, a person needs to heal that child inside them who has been wounded. They need to understand and embrace this original self of themselves. This part of their who still carried wonder, joy, innocence and sensitivity needs to be loved and told that it is being taken care of.
Hypnotherapy can effectively help you in reconnecting with this frozen ,unhealed part of you. If you allow yourself to reconnect with your young self through hypnotherapy, you could leave the psychological baggage burdening your journey.
I recall the case of a young girl who at the age of 2 heard that she was unwanted as a part of an overheard conversation between her parents. Her mother then in a fit of rage told her that she had wanted to abort her but had been unsuccessful. The girl was rightfully traumatized from an early age. She started acting out in anger – had tantrums and had bouts of depression which were suicidal as she grew into teenage. As she grew up to young adulthood, she would look for relationships, which she knew would not work out and cause hurt to her. She used to bend backwards to accommodate her partner. It was not love on her part but the need to be loved which caused her to let herself be walked all over. Yet, her relationships would inevitably end, strengthening the belief in her that she was not worthy of love.
We worked upon her own self worth and I finally decided to use hypnotherapy so that she would reconnect with that lost child within her who still sought love. When she did find connect with her 2 year old toddler self, she had a deep emotional conversation with her – she tells the little her that she loves her and asks her to love herself first and foremost and that she was worth love and attention. Once her two year old was satisfied and the conversation drew to an end, I merged that part of her with herself.
My Client continued her therapy for a few more sessions where we kept working on all such unhealed parts of her from her childhood. Today my client is a happy confident woman who loves her work, her life and most of all herself. She remains single as she is yet to find someone worthy of her time and energy. Till she does find someone she does not need anyone else as her own company is enough for her.
This is the power of inner child healing. We don’t know which part of us is lost, leading to this discontentment in our lives. Lets find that little within ourselves who is perhaps lost, wounded and is unable to heal himself or herself. Lets rediscover our true selves and then truly learn to love ourselves